I want to wish a HEARTY mazal tov to all the girls i know who have gotten engaged in the last 6 months.
More importantly,
i want to give chizuk to those girls my age, only 20(ish,) who are feeling 'left behind'
or pressure to join the crowd of kalla's.
I just thought I'd share some of my techniques to push back the unwanted pressure imagined in my head.
A.) Evaluate my situation and make sure that there is a reason for the things I'm doing. Ei: Why I'm in school = to get a degree to support my husband in kollel for the first few years , b'h. or
B.) Am i really that old? NO for crying out loud I'm spring chicken!
C.) Am i doing my histadlus? have i been in touch with Rebanim who i respect? Have they confirmed that what i'm doing RIGHT now is the best i can do for the situation that i've been put in?
D.) DO i really want the stress of shidduchim RIGHT now on top of my CRAZZY schedual?
E.) IF that does help i call a friend who's NOT engaged and talk to her.
I Hope that this has helped. It's just that i got an email from a friend about this issue and have had to talk to myself about it a few times, B"H i know A LOT of kallas, and thought that maybe there are others out there with similar, imaginary, stress factors on their shoulders!
Have a GREAT shabbat- Tu B'shvat and Shabbat shira!
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Hear, hear!*
*After I wrote this I went and looked it up to make sure I'm spelling it right, and look what I found!
- The correct term is, "hear, hear!" It is an abbreviation for "hear, all ye good people, hear what this brilliant and eloquent speaker has to say!"
http://www.straightdope.com/mailbag/mhear.html
Most improtant, when you figure out what's best for you NOW check it with das torah that you respect, mack sure you're not off your rocker!
well well well i havn't heard from you in FORREVER!!! I"m so glad you've dicided to join along! I hope you're doing well with school and all!
totally true- its hard to accept it, espec when e/o around you is talking abt their dates and their chasanim....
well i definaltely appreciate you guys spending the time to read these posts, cause they're good for me to get out of my system. I' glad you guess are benifiting as well!
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